LET’S GET HOLD OF SOME OF THAT ANGER
Why do you get angry?
Anger is a natural emotion that is triggered when one feels frustrated, distressed, irritated, or annoyed. The expression can range from one’s face turning red, making sarcastic comments, angry outburts, verbally abusing to physically hitting someone. Those who don’t have hold on their anger usually elicit reaction of outburst.
How you view anger also plays a role in how you express it. If you have a negative perception of anger and saw it as a part of your childhood, or if demands in your household were fulfilled through angry outbursts, you may have learned to express anger in a certain way throughout your life. Your personality also dictates how you perceive and react to other people’s anger.
Let’s narrow down the major reasons for your anger
Thinking that being tough, intimidating, and aggressive will get you respected and get things done for you
Have you ever notice how we all perceive this notion that being Tough intimidating among our peers and in corporate circles will get you respected. So you go round being aggressive and bossy with everyone at work and also to some extent with all your relations outside of workplace. This sub conscious habit of bullying people will push people away from you.
Being stubborn or having a hard time compromising with other
If you have a non negotiable kind of attitude in life and can’t come to terms with other people, it will cause you to burst with aggressive reactions when situations come to a stand still in your life
Other emotions co playing a part in your anger
The expression of anger might have just more than one layer of human emotion revolved in it. some time if you look closely at your reaction over speed up you can find several other emotions playing the role in your distress or frustration emotions like shame And in security might be the underlying emotions Causing you to be aggressive and frustrated
- Communication gap in your relations
Have you ever watched two friends or a couple fighting, with neither person saying what they really feel, yet both feeling upset? There is often something lying beneath the surface that needs to be addressed, and it may not even be related to the current argument. Proper communication and understanding of each other’s expectations can help prevent these kinds of conflicts from happening. The reasons that you might be angry for could be as subtle as work pressure, insufficient sleep or something that happened early in the day or yesterday But it expresses itself in different forms depending upon the scenarios. Deeplying reasons for your anger can be as varied as childhood trauma, abusive relationships, or stressful life events. Uncontrolled anger bursts can make your loved ones drift away from you, causing them to avoid your company altogerther when thier patience hits the ceiling.
- Being Pessimistic and blaming others for everything wrong in your life
How it impacts your relationships
UnControlled anger affects your relationship adversely
regular burts of anger and agression make your loved ones drift away from you, causing them to avoid your company altogether And there patience hits the ceiling.
Teenage boys open experience this if they have an aggressive father. They tend to avoid their father’s company whenever they feel their father might be in a bad mood.
“Teenage boys still experience a lot of aggressive fathers. They tend to avoid company when they feel like they can’t handle a situation. You start to conceal your emotions and become sensitive and impulsive to your surroundings. This can cause tension in relationships, sudden outbursts, and impulsive actions that you might regret later.”
- You start to conceal things
“To manage your excessive anger, find the underlying causes. If you have a tendency to get angry at the slightest confrontation, find the angles responsible for circumstances that trigger your anger. Write down instances where you get angry and try to come up with different ways to handle them. Don’t react impulsively because it will only escalate the situation. Rather, take a step back and assess the situation. Meditation helps to focus your mind and clarify your vision, enhancing your emotional stability and overall well-being.”
“Talk to someone you trust, someone you respect and admire. It could be a close friend, a family member, or even a counselor. Someone who can understand you, your true feelings, and thoughts. Talking to someone can help you relax and see the situation in a different manner. Taking the help of a counselor can also help in taming down tensions between two persons. A good person can talk to and understand the other person, making the room for you to do it on your own not enough. You also want to find some support from your acquaintances or trusted authors for these occasions beforehand. Sometimes simple but the wise words can slip out of your tongue before you acknowledge your emotions. Vast communication can help and it’s worth it. Even if you think it can’t touch off you, control your words as they can’t be taken back no matter how hard you try. When you apologize, do it straightaway and sincerely.”
“To find a reason to stop being angry, find someone you love, someone you respect. Someone who can help you find real peace and who wants the best for you. If you want to express something, do it out of respect for someone. If you need to vent, call your mother, friend, or do something you enjoy. The old wisdom about never taking anger to bed and never making a decision when angry is just that, wisdom. Your emotions can harm your mental health, but having a positive outlet like music, hobbies, or exercising can help. Seeking counseling or listening to someone who can offer a new perspective can also help.”